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Today, while conducting a training session on leadership for some teen girls, I found myself talking about experiences at my old job.  Relaxed, happy, and enjoying life, how far removed I am today from the stomach-knotting, headache-inducing days in that torturous job.  If you have ever worked for a bully, you know what I'm talking about.

That being said, I must confess that I was able to say that I have no regrets about the experience. I suffered much, but learned more, and the things that hurt me the most made me stronger and more aware of myself and others. 

I was teaching from Titus 3:1, where Paul was giving instructions to be related to their church leaders. "Remind them to be subject to rulers and authorities, to obey, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men."

The word teaches us that obedience and respect are not subject to change, based on our circumstances or environments.  We are equally accountable, across all levels of hardship or ease. Whether our boss could be best characterized as Mother Theresa or Cruella DeVil, taking God's Word to heart can make all the difference in our attitude, which, in turn, manifests in our actions.

One valuable thing I learned--and pass on today--is this: When people or things provoke you, instead of asking, why me?, ask, Lord, what are you trying to teach me?  It's that simple.

Don't see the problem, see the opportunity to learn something--about yourself, or others. This is the key to getting out of that foxhole with a sound mind and body.  The truth of the matter is, God has a "no child left behind" policy. This is why we find ourselves "looped" through the same lesson over, and over, and over---retaking the test we've failed until we get it right.  In the end, this works better for us if we go into challenges with eyes wide open, with a heightened sense of awareness, an open heart, and a teachable mind.

Try it. It saved my life.

PS Diet day two--I made it without cheating :)  I've lost two pounds so far.

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